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Friday, September 19, 2014

I am an ISFJ

I took 2 tests.

The first was from: http://similarminds.com/myers-briggs-word.html

Introverted (I) 51.52% Extroverted (E) 48.48%
Sensing (S) 57.58% Intuitive (N) 42.42%
Feeling (F) 55% Thinking (T) 45%
Judging (J) 56.76% Perceiving (P) 43.24%

Your type is: ISFJ

ISFJ - "Conservator". Desires to be of service and to minister to individual needs - very loyal. 13.8% of total population.

follows the rules, polite, fears drawing attention to self, dislikes competition, somewhat easily frightened, easily offended, timid, dutiful, private, lower energy, finisher, organized, socially uncomfortable, modest, not confrontational, easily hurt, observer, prone to crying, not spontaneous, does not appreciate strangeness - intolerant to differences, apprehensive, clean, planner, prone to confusion, afraid of many things, responsible, guarded, avoidant, anxious, cautious, suspicious, more interested in relationships and family than intellectual pursuits, not adventurous, fears doing the wrong thing, dislikes change
*the descriptions listed here are made up of personality items. people who scored high on this type scored higher on the above items compared to the average. (more info)

favored careers:
homemaker, stay at home parent, office worker, health care worker, personal assistant, school teacher, administrative assistant, child care worker, clerical employee, receptionist, library assistant, dietitian, health educator, librarian
disfavored careers:
rock star, philosophy professor, filmmaker, performer, writer, bar owner, comedian, dj, entertainer, ceo, psychotherapist, bartender, entrepreneur, lecturer, astronomer

This one is from 16personalities.com

ISFJ personality

"Love only grows by sharing. You can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others." -- Brian Tracy
The ISFJ personality type is a unique group, in that many of their qualities often defy the definition of their individual personality traits. Though they possess the Feeling (F) trait, ISFJs have excellent analytical abilities; though they are Introverted (I), they have well-developed people skills and robust social relationships; and even though they are a Judging (J) type, as are all Sentinels (SJ), ISFJs are often receptive to change and new ideas. As with so many things, ISFJs are more than the sum of their parts, and it is the way they use these strengths that defines who they are.

ISFJs are true altruists, meeting kindness with kindness-in-excess and engaging work and people they believe in with enthusiasm and generosity – there’s hardly a better type to make up such a large proportion of the population, nearly 13%. Combining the best of tradition and a desire to do good things, ISFJs can often be found in lines of work with a sense of history behind them, such as medicine, academics and charitable social work. However, they are unlikely to seek out managerial positions in these fields, and are still more unlikely to brag about their accomplishments – ISFJs prefer to be rewarded by seeing first-hand the positive impact of their efforts, and will remain enthusiastic simply knowing that what they do is genuinely appreciated by the people they care for.

This personal style is reflected in ISFJs’ preference for working in small, tight-knit groups, with as little friction as possible in the employer-employee relationship. If the employer is too brusque, especially when it comes to changing the rules unannounced, ISFJs will find themselves stressed and unhappy – they need time to prepare for change and new ideas, and while they are perfectly capable embracing such things, it’s important for a new approach to pass ISFJs’ moral filter. If a new idea trespasses on their principles, ISFJs will fight strongly for the traditional approach or existing norms and procedures.

ISFJs are often meticulous to the point of perfectionistic, and while they may sometimes procrastinate, if the rules are known, they can always be relied on to get the job done on time – ISFJs take their responsibilities personally, consistently going above and beyond and doing everything they can to exceed expectations and delight others, whether at work or at home. The challenge for ISFJs is ensuring that what they do is noticed – they have a tendency to underplay their accomplishments, and while their kindness is often respected, more cynical and selfish people are likely to take advantage of ISFJs’ dedication and humbleness by pushing work onto them and then taking the credit. ISFJs need to know when to say when and stand up for themselves if they are to maintain their confidence and enthusiasm.

Naturally social, an odd quality given that they are Introverted, ISFJs utilize an excellent memory not to retain data and trivia, but to remember people and details about their lives. When it comes to gift-giving, ISFJs have no equal, using their imagination and natural sensitivity to express their generosity in a way that will always touch the hearts of their recipients. While this is certainly true of their coworkers, whom ISFJs consider their personal friends more often than not, it is in family that their expression of affection blooms fully.

Though passionate about their work, home is where the heart is for ISFJs, and they take no greater pleasure than in being available for the people they love most. Here, ISFJs’ kindness goes beyond the mere exchange of gifts for gratitude, and into the joy that is found in truly taking care of another person’s needs, in being there for emotional and practical support whenever it’s needed. ISFJs may sometimes believe that they are doing this for their own benefit, but in reality it is a true expression of selflessness.

The trouble is, not everyone is prepared to receive the benefit of ISFJs’ kindness. Some personality types, especially the more independent ones such as INTJs, will find the emotional availability and attention that ISFJs offer up to be cloying or overbearing. Not everyone shares the same sensitivities and philosophies as ISFJs, and it’s important for them to not be put out when someone questions their kindness.

ISFJs are a wonderful group, rarely sitting idle while a worthy cause remains unfinished. ISFJs’ ability to connect with others on an intimate level is unrivaled among Introverts, and the joy they experience from using those connections to maintain a supportive, happy family is a gift for everyone involved. They may never be truly comfortable in the spotlight, and may feel guilty taking due credit for a team effort, but if they can find a way to ensure that their efforts are recognized, both in the workplace and at home, ISFJs are likely to feel a level of satisfaction in what they do that many other personality types can only dream of.

Famous ISFJs: Queen Elizabeth II, Robert E. Lee, Queen Mary I, Halle Berry, “Samwise Gamgee” from The Lord of the Rings, “Dr Watson,” Sherlock Holmes’ partner

ISFJ Strengths

  • Very supportive. ISFJs are always willing to help other people, sharing their knowledge and experience with their colleagues, classmates, or friends. People with this personality type strive for win-win situations, choosing empathy over judgment wherever possible.
  • Enthusiastic. ISFJ personalities want to make a difference and are willing to spend a lot of time and effort fighting for or contributing to a worthy cause. It does not really matter if that is a simple task or a global initiative; the ISFJ will jump right in if the idea is aligned with their goals.
  • Loyal and hard-working. ISFJs are very loyal and often get emotionally attached to a specific idea or a company. They will work very hard and do everything they can to meet their obligations.
  • Imaginative and observant. People with the ISFJ personality type have their feet firmly planted on the ground, but they are also very imaginative, especially if something fascinates and inspires them. Furthermore, ISFJs also tend to be very observant individuals, able to pick up the smallest cues, especially when it comes to someone else’s emotional state.
  • Reliable and patient. ISFJs are meticulous and careful individuals, always making sure that their work is completed to the highest standard and sometimes even going beyond what is required.
  • Good practical skills. ISFJ personalities have no difficulties handling practical tasks. Their sense of beauty and harmony is unmatched, and they do not shy away from mundane, routine tasks. Not surprisingly, ISFJs are great family people, always able and willing to take care of their loved ones.

ISFJ Weaknesses

  • Humble and shy. ISFJs are often reluctant to say what they truly think or present their achievements, especially in a competitive environment. This can hinder their career progress and cause frustration and disappointment.
  • Overload themselves. ISFJs’ perfectionism, combined with their strong sense of duty, often pushes them to take on too much work—and as already discussed above, ISFJs always want to make sure that everything is completed perfectly. Not surprisingly, this can cause a lot of stress and anxiety for an ISFJ, especially if other people abuse their good nature.
  • Take many things too personally. ISFJs are very sensitive to conflict and criticism, taking critical comments very personally. They may also have difficulties separating their professional and personal lives, allowing their worries about work to affect everything else.
  • Reluctant to change. ISFJ personalities value traditions very highly and may be unwilling to try out new things or change their habits, even when that would make sense from the rational perspective.
  • Too altruistic. ISFJs tend to be very good-natured, warm individuals and they are likely to find it difficult to refuse requests for help. Unfortunately, this often results in the ISFJ getting overloaded with other people’s work or problems.
  • Repress their feelings. People with this personality type are private and even somewhat shy. Not surprisingly, they tend to repress their feelings instead of expressing them in a healthy way. This in turn increases their stress levels and can cause a lot of frustration further down the road.

ISFJ relationships

ISFJs are very committed to keeping their long-term relationships at the highest possible level and being responsible while dating. People with this personality type usually have very strong feelings, but they tend to hide them from the outside world, unless there is a very good reason to open up, which is why these feelings may not always be obvious to other people. Anyone dating an ISFJ should keep this mind; more than likely, their shell is hiding some very strong feelings.

The intensity of these feelings means that romantic relationships are a very high priority for ISFJs, and they may sometimes even place them on the same shelf as religious feelings. Consequently, ISFJ personalities take dating very seriously as well. ISFJs seek long-term relationships, and it is safe to say that they are very likely to remain faithful to their partners until the last day of their life.
Looking from the sexual perspective, ISFJs see intimacy as a very important aspect of every romantic relationship. They tend to be very good at expressing their feelings through physical actions, paying a lot of attention to satisfying their partner’s needs. ISFJs are also likely to see sexual acts as a duty rather than a source of pleasure—but they will truly enjoy them. People with this personality type rarely verbalise their feelings of love and affection, so intimacy is a great way for them to express these emotions.

An ISFJ can spend an enormous amount of time and energy making sure that their partner is happy; there is nothing more pleasant to an ISFJ than being appreciated by their other half. The same thing can be said about their dating or romantic relationships in general: the best gift that someone can give to an ISFJ is lots of love and appreciation.

An ISFJ is also likely to be very altruistic and perceptive of other people’s needs. However, people with this personality type should ensure that such a trait of theirs does not lead to abuse, especially while dating. It is important for ISFJs to pay some attention to their own dreams and desires as well, instead of spending all their energy on fulfilling others’ needs. Anyone dating an ISFJ should also keep this in mind.

ISFJs are likely to find it difficult to deal with criticism or tense situations. People with this personality type are known for their tendency to accumulate their anger and then unleash it in an all-out verbal attack, saying words that they are very likely to regret later.

ISFJs, generally speaking, are very family-oriented individuals, paying a lot of attention to their partner and other family members. They are perfectly suited to take care of everyday needs, and they take pleasure in caring for other people. Anyone dating an ISFJ should remember that the best ISFJ traits always come out later in the relationship—and this is one of the examples. An ISFJ is likely to invest a lot of time and effort in the romantic relationship and is likely to be a trustworthy, loyal, and loving partner.

Preferred partners: ESFP and ESTP types, as their Extraversion (E) and Prospecting (P) traits counterbalance ISFJs’ Introversion (I) and Judging (J) traits.

ISFJ friends

ISFJ friends are extraordinarily warm, altruistic, and loyal. They are not too choosy when it comes to friendships with other personality types, as long as the other person is willing to connect with them on a deeper level. ISFJ personalities tend to rely on their friends for emotional support, advice, and reassurance. This makes them somewhat vulnerable but also gives both individuals a chance to form a very deep, strong friendship.

That being said, ISFJs may encounter a couple issues when it comes to friendships. First of all, people with this personality type tend to put the needs of their friends above their own. While this is not necessarily a bad thing (provided that those friends do not abuse the ISFJ’s altruism), such an approach may push the ISFJ to neglect their own needs. ISFJs are likely to need a lot of emotional support, and if this support is not forthcoming from friends whom they have helped, the ISFJ may be very hurt.

Second, ISFJ friends stick to their commitments and do their best to fulfill their promises. This is a great trait, but it is accompanied by the ISFJ’s tendency to avoid saying “no” in fear of upsetting their friends. Some people may see this as a weakness and try to abuse the ISFJ’s goodwill, so people with this personality type should keep this trait in check.

ISFJ personalities are Introverted (I), and it may not be easy to get them to open up; however, they do need to have several close friends with whom they can discuss important matters. It is unlikely that an ISFJ will become close friends with someone who has strongly expressed Thinking (T) or Prospecting (P) traits; they prefer the company of Feeling and Judging (FJ) types. Surprisingly, ISFJs also tend to have at least one Intuitive (N) friend in their inner circle, even though they may find it difficult to connect with them on a deeper level due to the Intuitive (N) / Observant (S) communication barrier. Still, ISFJs tend to drift toward other Sentinels (SJ) as these types are most likely to have a similar vision of the world.

ISFJ parents

ISFJ parents are likely to be traditional, warm, and very responsible. Furthermore, people with this personality type are altruistic and supportive, which makes parenthood a natural and easy task for them. ISFJs will make sure that their children grow up in a safe, stable, and supportive environment, surrounded by love and care.

ISFJ personalities are patient and reliable, although their attention can sometimes be overbearing. They will work very hard to make sure that their children understand the importance of a strong value system, dedication, and responsibility. ISFJs are often seen as ideal parents, able and willing to cater to all their children’s needs.

That being said, ISFJ parents should make sure that their children do not take their dedication and care for granted. ISFJs are likely to be very uncomfortable if their child does not behave as expected, especially in a public place, and do their best to resolve the issue as soon as possible. Not surprisingly, the child is likely to notice this weakness very quickly, throwing tantrums whenever they do not get what they want (e.g., in a shopping center). ISFJ parents should try to overcome their discomfort in such situations and establish clear boundaries for their children.

ISFJ careers

The list of typical ISFJ careers is probably the longest among all personality types—and for a very good reason. ISFJs tend to be very altruistic and well-rounded individuals, which usually makes them excellent employees. We will discuss some of their best careers below. Please feel free to leave a comment if you have any ideas or suggestions.

To begin with, ISFJs tend to be very adept at gathering and remembering various facts, especially about other people. This can be a great social skill in most career paths, especially where teamwork and cooperation are necessary. An ISFJ will always remember the name of their boss’ daughter or birthdays of most of their colleagues. Furthermore, ISFJs are very in-tune with other people’s emotions. Consequently, when it comes to choosing the best careers for an ISFJ, it can be said that they tend to be excellent counselors, administrative assistants, or managers.

ISFJ careers tend to progress quite smoothly as ISFJs are willing to put a lot of effort into making sure that the job gets done. They are very practical; however, this comes at a cost as ISFJs dislike theories, concepts, or abstract ideas. For this reason, ISFJs should avoid highly theoretical careers (e.g., academic research) and focus on “practical” ones. People with this personality type are at their best when it comes to implementing ideas and making things work. Some of the most typical ISFJ career paths utilize these traits; for instance, many ISFJs are found among interior designers, bookkeepers, economists, or office managers.

ISFJs are very service-oriented, warm, and traditional. They respect traditional values and security, which is usually reflected in ISFJ careers as well. It is not uncommon to see ISFJs involved in volunteering activities, community work, or childhood development initiatives. They also tend to be excellent nurses and social or religious workers—these career paths may also interest some ISFJs.

In general, two simple things tend to be very clearly expressed in most of the careers that ISFJs decide to take. First, they need to utilise their people-sensing skills as this is one of their most important and unique strengths. Second, ISFJs need to have an opportunity to “create order from chaos” as they usually possess truly extraordinary talents in this area. If these two conditions are met, that particular career path is probably a very good choice for an ISFJ.

ISFJ in the workplace

People with the ISFJ personality type are kind, service-oriented individuals, usually good at a variety of tasks. Their reliability and dedication in the workplace are well known, but what exactly are ISFJs like as colleagues, managers, and subordinates?

ISFJ Colleagues

  • Prefer working in a close-knit team
  • Very supportive and altruistic
  • Naturally good at networking, but unlikely to use these skills to advance their career
  • Strongly dislike conflicts at work
  • Tend to see colleagues as personal friends
  • Always happy to help, but may often overload themselves

ISFJ Managers

  • Very good at implementing ideas
  • Know how to listen to their subordinates
  • Traditional, may be slow to accept changes
  • Prefer horizontal hierarchies, may not actually enjoy managing others
  • Do their best to create a warm, conflict-free work environment
  • Dislike authoritarianism and try to forge personal relationships with their subordinates

ISFJ Subordinates

  • Meticulous and very reliable
  • Very loyal, likely to try to follow their manager if they leave for another role
  • May understate their input and be less “visible” than their colleagues
  • Patient and committed
  • May be unwilling to advertise their achievements
  • Need to know that their input is valued


Few personality types are as practical and dedicated as ISFJs. Known for their reliability and altruism, ISFJs are good at creating and maintaining a secure and stable environment for themselves and their loved ones. ISFJs' dedication is invaluable in many areas, including their own personal growth.

Yet ISFJs can be easily tripped up in areas where their kindness and practical approach are more of a liability than an asset. Whether it is finding (or keeping) a partner, learning to relax or improvise, reaching dazzling heights on the career ladder, or managing their workload, ISFJs need to put in a conscious effort to develop their weaker traits and additional skills.

What you have read so far is just an introduction into the complex concept that is the ISFJ personality type. You may have muttered to yourself, "wow, this is so accurate it's a little creepy" or "finally, someone understands me!" You may have even asked "how do they know more about me than the people I'm closest to?"

This is not a trick. You felt understood because you were. We've studied how ISFJs think and what they need to reach their full potential. And no, we did not spy on you – many of the challenges you've faced and will face in the future have been overcome by other ISFJs. You simply need to learn how they succeeded.

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